When I say it out loud, it sounds strange to be turning the leaf on my third decade. If I could I would put my twenties in a time capsule and visit them often. When I look back on the last 10 years I feel grateful for how impressionable I was in my twenties. Not in a way that I felt the need to fit in to a certain standard, but rather that I was put on a path that lead me to people that challenged me to really think about what I want out of life. And not just to think about what I want, but to act on what I want. None of it has come without fear, doubt, uncertainty and discomfort, but I’m happy to report that if I had to go back and do it all over again, I would and I wouldn’t change a single thing. From moving to New York City for an internship, to living and studying abroad in Spain, to moving from my hometown to Sacramento, then from Sacramento to Tahoe. From learning the power of mental strength when being pushed to physical limits, starting my blog back in 2010, to traveling to places in the world I’d only dreamt of seeing. Here are a few things I’ve learned in my twenties I will take with me wherever I go:
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.
As an avid traveler, small business owner, fitness enthusiast and blogger, I’ve come to find that any battle is won or lost in your head before it’s ever played on the field. I believe that any measurable result starts with the simple belief that you can actually do whatever it is you want to do. From getting your dream job, to attaining your goal weight, to living where you want to live, to affording the lifestyle you want to live, to traveling where you want to travel. It may sound too simple or entirely cheesy that the first step towards any goal starts with your decision to work until you get there, but it’s so true. It starts and ends with your belief.
What others think of you is none of your business.
As I’m sure is the case for most of us, I’ve spent too much time in my life being concerned with what other people think of me, whether I was aware at the time or not. What other people think of you has nothing to do with you. Pursue the things that make you happy, that fulfill your purpose, that make you the best version of yourself and build your future in a strong way.
The answer is always no until you ask.
It happens to me to this day, but I find myself surprised every time I have a limited belief in something and come to find out the answer is yes….because I just asked! Too often we tell ourselves stories and makeup an outcome of what something will be, paralyzing our ability to just pursue a question or opportunity in fear that the answer will be no.
Happiness is a choice.
This is a continued effort and I’m for sure not perfect at this, but I’ve learned the habit of being proactive rather than reactive to the things that happen in my life. I believe that deciding which you choose to be has a massive impact to the quality of life you live. It feels so much better to take responsibility for the way I feel, to make choices based on my values, and to be grateful in times of stress and chaos instead of blaming outside circumstances, complaining and playing a victim.
If you don’t build your dream someone will hire you to help build theirs.
I adored my young professional life when I lived downtown and worked at the Capitol in Sacramento and also liked my job in marketing while I lived in Tahoe, but I came to realize I loved the idea of those jobs based on what I thought I should do with my education and career, rather than because I felt fulfilled or was taking control of my future. I realized early on that I would continue to work really hard for someone else or I could work really hard for myself. I choose my dreams.
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Fear will dictate every single decision you make it your life if you let it. I never realized how encapsulating it could be until I started blogging and started my Arbonne business, but I can “what if” the hell out of anything. Fear will always exist; it’s not about being fearless, it’s about moving through it. Even still I’m plagued with the voices in my head that try to talk me out of leaving my comfort zone: What if it doesn’t work? What if I fail? What if I fall on my face and look like a big idiot? But now I recognize that fear has a place in every decision, but in the same thought I owe it to myself to also ask: What if it does work? What will it look and feel like when I achieve this goal? What choices will I have because I gained X?
Someday is not a day of the week.
It’s almost never a convenient time to to cross things off your bucket list. As time continues to seemingly travel at light speed, I’ve come to really value how precious it is and how I want to make a continued effort to use my time wisely. You get four weeks a month to next week your healthy lifestyle change. You get 12 months a year to next month that studio you want to try. Make a decision on whatever it is you want to do and then stat making an action plan to get there.
The last 10 years will be hard to beat but in true Zaza form I choose to believe that the best is yet to come. I feel overwhelmingly blessed for the loving and supportive family, friends and readers I have. Thank you for being a valued part in my continued journey. Here’s to living life with utmost zest. Hello, 30.
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